It's very good when you discover someone who has been barking up the same tree as you. For me it's very very rare. So I try and make friends with them. Write to them. Try and impress them.
This is one of the pleasures of reading. That you pick up a book and realise somebody, somewhere was thinking and feeling the way you are. A connection across time and space.
There's also the phenomenon of the master purposefully hobbling the student. Eg Chris Eubanks with his son.