If you could do it all again

catalog

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i think for a lot of human history, people have tended to have had children between the ages of 25 and 35 years old. i can't prove it. maybe tea or hmgovt or padraig can shed better light. perhaps i am completely wrong. but it would make sense to me in terms of the 30 year rule for culture and the way decades of culture have worked. 60s, 90s etc
 

Mr. Tea

Shub-Niggurath, Please
i think for a lot of human history, people have tended to have had children between the ages of 25 and 35 years old. i can't prove it. maybe tea or hmgovt or padraig can shed better light. perhaps i am completely wrong. but it would make sense to me in terms of the 30 year rule for culture and the way decades of culture have worked. 60s, 90s etc
I think historically it's been pretty common for people - or women, at least - to start having kids at 20ish, but in the absence of contraception they might keep on having them till they were pushing 40. So a generation could be just 20 years at a minimum, but more like 25-30 in reality if you take the average.
 

HMGovt

Bamber Clatscoigne
I think historically it's been pretty common for people - or women, at least - to start having kids at 20ish, but in the absence of contraception they might keep on having them till they were pushing 40. So a generation could be just 20 years at a minimum, but more like 25-30 in reality if you take the average.
Historically, about 10% of men fathered 90% of children. Or something like that. It's a foundation of black pill incel thinking.

Or maybe that was chimps or sea urchins. Help me out.
 

Mr. Tea

Shub-Niggurath, Please
Historically, about 10% of men fathered 90% of children. Or something like that. It's a foundation of black pill incel thinking.
It's true that the variance in reproductive success is far larger for men than for women, which is why mitochondrial Adam lived thousands of years later than m-Eve. But I guess it depends what you mean by "historically" - probably more true in the Bronze Age than in the 19th century. But certainly it's a feature of cultures where polygamy is the norm.
 

luka

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i don't really know. it involves drugs. you just work something out on the drugs and you change completely.
 

luka

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take loads of drugs and work stuff out. thats the secret to it. but you might not want to change or once you have changed you might regret it. its an all in thing. fatal leaps. no gping back.
 
LOL. There’s an idea that those with strong imaginations can tend to be melancholic procrastinators, possibility heads, but what if-ing all the time.
 

luka

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do you feel your feeling of feeling interior world has changed drastically at some point? or do you have a sense of total continunity and identity?
 
do you feel your feeling of feeling interior world has changed drastically at some point? or do you have a sense of total continunity and identity?
Dunno. Probably more Subtle shifts, eras. No drastic transformations in adult life anyway. I’ve had a few drug experiences that left me feeling my personality was permanently changed but things drifted back after a few weeks, it’s impossible to measure though isn’t it
 

WashYourHands

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If you could do it all over again, generally speaking, begs the question why would you unless something genuinely appalling came on? And even then, mistakes and even trauma are embedded into life. Very few avoid it, chance more than anything. Working with addicts, you learn underlying traumas underpin so much behaviour.

Mistakes? One appalling relationship. You don’t know a true narcissist and abuser until it’s too late. I met her at a proverbial crossroads. 30 years old, only adult learner back in a cohort of public school types at university after an aborted first attempt earlier in life. Fish out of water, but the course opened up and it was life changing. Then one evening Lady X steps into the realm. Fucked like animals. She made me laugh harder than any other human before or since. Like a flower blooming, was all in at 18months but slowly but surely, things started going missing. Long story involving cocaine, lies, an emptied bank acct the night before finals and the descent of someone into prostitution. The worst of that experience created a route into working with addicts full time. It’s brutal work and I’ve questioned the sanity of seeing people you form v close bonds with repeatedly relapse, but moving sideways into music therapy got rona’d.

Pro’s and cons.
 

john eden

male pale and stale
My life is essentially an accumulation of mistakes. Eventually you learn to understand their purpose which doesn't stop you making them, but does help the process of mitigation. It's called maturing, Corpse.
I am my mistakes.

And I am my mistakes.
 

john eden

male pale and stale
Droid's usual take on this is that he'd do it all again exactly the same because he's read enough sci-fi books to know that anything else might mean his kids ceased to exist.

William Burroughs:

I recall an interview with some retarded reporter and he asked me, “Mr Burroughs, is there anything in your life you regret, anything you would do differently if you had to do it over?”

What did you say? No, don’t repeat it. Well, I’m lucky if I get through a day without something I did wrong, something I regret. And here you’re talking about a lifetime! Think of the real mistakes. “There are mistakes too monstrous for remorse/To tamper or dally with”
Can anyone place that quotation?

Can anyone place it ? – Edward Arlington Robinson – He’s really a neglected poet (and he wrote a whole poem (“Merlin”) about the Arthur legend). Anyone who never made mistakes like that and paid for these mistakes, I trust him little in the commerce of the soul. No experience. Young thief thinks he’s got a licence to steal. Young lawyer who never botched a case? Young doctor who never killed a patient?
 
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