That's the pleasure of life: framing random actions and events in a narrative drama. A sign of depression is not being able to do that, a total inability to tolerate or create illusions and aspirations which are both closely related and indispensable. I can see that to somebody in state of depression, R&B could be pure torture. I always go back to how much heartbreak I channeled through Jagged Edge's 'Walked Outta Heaven': it was the perfect song at the right moment, a vehicle for expressing and dramatizing my own emotions. It magnified them, but also stopped them becoming destructive.