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luka

Well-known member
you definitely do not sound like an arsehole I love those sort of posts. Funnily enough I just got an email from a friend who's first child was born last night
 

john eden

male pale and stale
I think taking on being a parent as your sole or primary identity can easily get quite irritating for others.
 

craner

Beast of Burden
On a personal note, I mostly worry about how I’ll react when my children want to read Harry Potter instead of Homer.
 

Mr. Tea

Let's Talk About Ceps
On a personal note, I mostly worry about how I’ll react when my children want to read Harry Potter instead of Homer.
Or want to listen to whatever is in the charts at the time, and not Roxy Music/Aaliyah/Killah Priest.
 

sus

Well-known member
I have no respect for Craner, none. What's he ever done for me? What proofs of divinity has he lately manufactured? The Old Gods are family fictions passed down over generations. Myths from a simpler time.
 

sus

Well-known member
I have to say the tone of the OP irked me a little. It's a bit as if anything emotionally important can't be said without being pissed and deferred a bit via humour. I say this 'cos I've had a lot of similar reactions from my mates who don't have kids - you get this kinda bravado about it which can grate and look a bit sad by the time they're in their 40s.

Having said that, having kids is pretty fucking amazing, though like anything that important, it totally upends your life. The whole process of seeing your partner's pregnancy and (if you'e lucky) a good birth is just incredible. The fact it happens thousands of times a day doesn't make it less miraculous. And then you get to see your kid age, grow, learn, this weird little animal becomes human. I'm deeply interested in all aspects of this due to being an aspiring psychotherapist but they seem to me like vital parts of life that its a shame not to experience. It does take attention and time away from yourself and your own pursuits of course, and that's always a trade off. There's definitely "before" and "after children" in my own life. But those are the breaks and you're never going to have a life free from conflicts that come with career, work, responsibility, relationships, ageing and so on. Kids are part of that mix (or not, maybe, depending on you).
Danny I'm sorry about the tone if you ever get upset with me again remember I'm 25 and therefore cannot help being a shit head

Thank you for your sincere response it has been sincerely taken these are things that need thinking on
 

sus

Well-known member
Guys does Corpsey have a serious genetic defect or something that we don't talk about here? We can take it to PMs if it'll offend him. But I reckon there must be seriously wrong with him, like a donut-shaped pecker. In pictures he looks so virile and handsome, full head of hair, ready to take on the world, but he says he's always single
 

Leo

Well-known member
Yeah, as a kid I don’t remember being the central fact of my parent’s lives, same with my cousins. We’d get shoved in a room with some Lego while they got on with whatever.

this was us as kids too. I'm sure my parents loved us (?), but never remember them going on about us -- or aspects of raising kids in general -- with other parents.
 
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DannyL

Wild Horses
Danny I'm sorry about the tone if you ever get upset with me again remember I'm 25 and therefore cannot help being a shit head

Thank you for your sincere response it has been sincerely taken these are things that need thinking on
It's all good mate. I'm not offended or owt, I was just being honest. It's a bit of a fraught emotional minefield for everyone as you can see from al the responses. Good topic I thought.
 
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Mr. Tea

Let's Talk About Ceps
I have no respect for Craner, none. What's he ever done for me? What proofs of divinity has he lately manufactured? The Old Gods are family fictions passed down over generations. Myths from a simpler time.
Mate, in the context of this forum, @craner is one of the Old Gods. Show some fucking respect.
 
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Slothrop

Tight but Polite
I think taking on being a parent as your sole or primary identity can easily get quite irritating for others.
A weird thing about having a baby during the pandemic is that so much of your normal stuff is on hold anyway and you have no idea how far it'd have taken over your life in other circumstances. Like, I'd assume that you're going to spend proportionately more of your time getting excited about tiny developmental milestones when the other highlights of your life are Wednesday Zoom Pub and Bandcamp Friday.
 

luka

Well-known member
My sister said six of her friendship group are currently pregnant. Lot of babies are getting born through this.
 

DannyL

Wild Horses
Having a kid is weird in the pandemic also cos you can't do the normal stuff involving grandparents, babysitters, or take em anywhere. Ours currently watching too much TV.
 
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WashYourHands

Cat Malogen
“What did you do during the Great Covid War of 2020 Dad?”

- “your mother and I fucked each other til we were sore”.

The first lockdown was a lot easier because my Mum got stranded here, helped out more than words can really tell. Autumn into winter got tougher. In-laws have been stuck in Liverpool. With boys we find it easier getting outdoors, camped out a bunch over summer even if it was only the back garden. Autumn trails, picking through tree types from leaves. Other half would like one more if it’s a girl. I dunno, think we’ve bitten off enough for now.

As has been said - the greatest source of joy and magic, but the greatest leveller too. Can’t believe we just had 14hours in bed to chill. Unhurried sex. Lord have mercy.
 
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