It seems like what youre describing is normal friendship in adult contexts. Thats not what this thread is about
This might be a slight generational gap. My generation is good with getting serious about expressing emotions. It comes naturally from our sexual liberationbecasue you dont know any other way to interact. the person with the problems exerts a greater gravity than your flimsy attempts to be virtuous. over time they will ways win.
this is a good observation, that you have all already slipped past the point of no returnIts a very different feeling than pre adulthood relationships- in those theres always the promise that said mate will become something else no matter what happens and all you need to do is wait. Now theres no such guarantee