droid

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It's not really my style, and it depends on the circumstances but from my experience the easiest way to deal with a stalker is to send a few lads round for a quick visit. It's quicker, simpler and generally more effective than the police or criminal justice system.
 

IdleRich

IdleRich
In court he tried character assassination, told some story about how she pulled a whitey once.

Don't worry Craner, it's not you.
 

version

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It's not really my style, and it depends on the circumstances but from my experience the easiest way to deal with a stalker is to send a few lads round for a quick visit. It's quicker, simpler and generally more effective than the police or criminal justice system.

You can't send a few lads round to intimidate a woman who's stalking a bloke. You'd just make yourself look like the bad guy.
 

william_kent

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It's not really my style, and it depends on the circumstances but from my experience the easiest way to deal with a stalker is to send a few lads round for a quick visit. It's quicker, simpler and generally more effective than the police or criminal justice system.

I did get an offer to have my stalker kidnapped and sold into slavery into a Nigerian brothel, but I turned that offer down, however tempting it may have been
 

droid

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You can't send a few lads round to intimidate a woman who's stalking a bloke. You'd just make yourself look like the bad guy.
Yeah, it depends on the circumstances. I knew someone who was harassed for years by some POS, unwanted contact, phone calls, online harassment, arriving at her workplace, waiting outside her house at night, impersonating her online etc. Pretty nasty stuff that had a very serious effect on her mental health. The cops didnt wanna know. Eventually it all came out and another friend of mine made some arrangements, and the problem evaporated overnight without any severe physical damage. I think it may have been the best possible outcome TBH.
 

version

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What happened was this bloke was going out with her and she abused him to the point he became suicidal, so he eventually ended it with her and she went nuts messaging everyone trying to win him back saying he was the most amazing person she'd ever met and how she couldn't lose him, tried to move into the house behind his and all sorts.

This went on for months until he got a new girlfriend then she suddenly switched and claimed he was a monster and a rapist and whatnot, plastered it all over social media, managed to get him fired from his job and tried to do the same to the new girlfriend and she's been doing that more or less nonstop for about a year now.

Obviously you have to take claims like that seriously, but the new girlfriend went to see her, recorded the conversation and she changed her story five times within a couple of hours. She also discovered she'd copied and pasted bits of someone else's story and passed it off as her own.

They went to the police and the police went round to see her and she refused to press any sort of charges after being asked if she wanted to four times then she went around saying she hadn't heard anything from the police and they were lying about having contacted them despite her being banned from contacting either of them, which is why she now has to go through other people and come up with fake accounts.

Interestingly, a previous partner of her's contacted them and said she'd kicked the shit out of him and abused him too and up until that point they'd thought he was a scumbag because she'd told everyone that bloke was a rapist and whatnot too.

The last thing I heard was she'd taken it to some sort of women's rights group and now has them messaging people on her behalf.
 

version

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Yeah, it's an impossible situation. He's only lost a handful of friends over it as most people know it's bullshit, but she started messaging random people when it wouldn't go over with people who knew them.
 

droid

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Thats a tough one. I know someone else who's best friend killed himself after being falsely accused of sexual harassment, slandered on social media and expelled and excluded from all the niche hobby communities he was part of. The accusations were totally unfounded and part of some internal group politics.
 

version

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I dunno how you're supposed to navigate it as I also know people who've been raped, assaulted etc and whose attackers more or less got away with it.

You don't want to wave that sort of accusation away or play into misogynist talking points.
 

william_kent

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i've just deleted a drunken, almost paralytic, "serious post" about the dichotomy of male vs female stalkers, but have just noticed the "J.H. Prynne"tag...why drag our beloved Jez into this?
 

version

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There's an old thread on stalking too.

 

version

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The internet's been a real gamechanger for the stalker. They can prowl you and your friends social media at leisure if you aren't savvy enough to have robust privacy settings or simply not be on there in the first place.

There was that bloke who was recently sent down for stalking at least 62 women for over a decade,

 

william_kent

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The internet's been a real gamechanger for the stalker. They can prowl you and your friends social media at leisure if you aren't savvy enough to have robust privacy settings or simply not be on there in the first place.

There was that bloke who was recently sent down for stalking at least 62 women online for over a decade,



I once had a work colleague who seemed genuinely puzzled whenever his stalker turned up at whatever venue he was advertising his presence at via "foursquare" ( is that even a thing now? )
 

Mr. Tea

Let's Talk About Ceps
police were pretty good with me, but it depends on who you get... they took out a restraining order but those only last so long
But the question is, have you learned your lesson and given up stalking for good?

Edit: holy shit, the thread got a whole lot more serious since the last bit I'd read up to.
 
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