baboon2004

Darned cockwombles.
patty made a fair point earlier about it being nothing to do with me, but at this point it needs people who aren't involved to step in because you lot don't ever seem to feel like stopping and you're so distrusting of each other that any attempt any of you make to placate the situation's viewed with suspicion by the others and just adds fuel to the fire.

You have as much right as anyone else to have your say. These arguments aren't in private.

I disagree with (some of) your analysis though. There's limited merit in relative bystanders stepping in to a group therapy session where most people have no idea of what's going on in each other's personal lives, and conversation is via keyboard rather than face-to-face. All that achieves is a further hardening of boundaries, doubling down on intransigent positions, which is what we're seeing. We've also seen it before.

Having said that, and in the spirit of total contradiction... :/

It does need a clarification about whether there are any limits to what can be said on here. Luka made comments on that locked thread to Thirdform that were obviously abusive. That's not his usual character, and I can't imagine that it's not about more than an online annoyance with another poster. I think latitude needs to be given to anyone* who transgresses boundaries because most of us will have difficult stuff happening IRL that spills onto these pages. And that of course includes Thirdform, which is why that thread should never have gone the way it did. Talking about banning people is always a bad look. whoever's doing it. The challenge of coexisting with other people is to work through this stuff, not give up on others and seek the easy way out.

And a lot of the rest of what's happened here is healthy working through of stuff that needs to be worked through. Pattycakes has made great posts, Barty too.


*which hasn't always happened in Dissensus history - a lot of it has been factional
 
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baboon2004

Darned cockwombles.
sorry if this is too personal or even patronising, but sometimes things that are happening in my life that flavour how i experience the forum and even come out as anger on the forum.

No apology needed there at all imo. It needs to get personal. Pretending all posters don't have private lives that are colouring their interactions here leads to certain doom. Dissensus becomes a place to act out, while denying that we all bring strong emotions with us every time we log on to this space.
 

Mr. Tea

Let's Talk About Ceps
If you don't find an unintentionally obscene typo in "dog walking" funny then I think you just failed some sort of emotive Turing test.
 
This thread is your boss saying “Wanna hear something funny?” It makes me feel claustrophobic. It’s something about the compartmentalising of funny things aside from other things that annoys me. Even the role of comedian I find a bit tragic. And especially their marketing, their press shots, shite.
 

Leo

Well-known member
fair play. we see things differently.

these are mostly dumbass things that wouldn't fit elsewhere, or would derail threads, or get overlooked. they have a home, for anyone interested. like the dinner of the day thread, a change of pace from deep thoughts and witty rejoinders. most people aren't interested: I've joked upthread about how it's essentially me and tea posting stupid shit, occasional good contributions by version.
 
I know, I’m sorry for being a killjoy I’m just trying to work out why I sometimes feel this way and I’m also playing up to pattycakes idea of me
 
There’s probably loads of funny stuff in here, I wouldnt know. I stand by that bit about the comedy industry though, deeply tragic, we can do a thread about it some time
 
Ah thanks. That hits on some of the things definitely. I’ll take some time to reflect on my behaviour and then post there.
 

Mr. Tea

Let's Talk About Ceps
I know, I’m sorry for being a killjoy I’m just trying to work out why I sometimes feel this way and I’m also playing up to pattycakes idea of me

Why don't you give patty's aunt a ring, see if you can cheer yourself up a bit?
 
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