0bleak

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Perhaps we're getting closer to a proper balance now that women having relations with underage boys has been normalized enough that it's an acceptable attention-grabbing reason to grab a magazine/tabloid.
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0bleak

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Oh, come on - Genuine question - what words would you use to convey the same thing in a way that didn't offend your sensibilities?
 

ghost

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He was wearing a crop top at the time and talking about how he recently signed up for a burlesque class — things the other straight guys I was dating last year would definitely never do. Those things, the crop top and the burlesque class, are evidence of his internal freedom and his ability to express his full humanity.
His freedom from dehumanizing gender roles is extremely hot and also makes him a really good partner. I know that a lot of women pursue and prefer men who embody the truncated human expression of compliance with restrictive gender roles.

The thing that's funny about this is that it's not enough to internally be free and to do things only because of one's own desires. To demonstrate internal freedom, one must also engage in certain gender performances that are countervailing. Masculinity, on the other hand, is dehumanizing, and a "truncated human expression."

Maybe these are the reasons that OP didn't get along with the other men—her sense of deep contempt for masculinity and the idea that engaging in it can be an expression of the self?
 

0bleak

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‘sexual selection’ don't know what it is about the internet but it makes people talk about such beautiful important things in this inorganic terminology. like you're nerds observing woodlice. 'sexual selection' Jesus christ .

I'm probably wrong, but it seems like shaming people for being "nerdy" when they have nvld/autism is like shaming with a physical disability for their physical disabilities.
 

Mr. Tea

Let's Talk About Ceps
Perhaps we're getting closer to a proper balance now that women having relations with underage boys has been normalized enough that it's an acceptable attention-grabbing reason to grab a magazine/tabloid.
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Well one of them already has a salt-and-pepper beard and a receding hairline, so you can see how she might not have realised he was that young.
 

shakahislop

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I'm probably wrong, but it seems like shaming people for being "nerdy" when they have nvld/autism is like shaming with a physical disability for their physical disabilities.
you're probably not that wrong to be honest, I have no idea really
 

shakahislop

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Oh, come on - Genuine question - what words would you use to convey the same thing in a way that didn't offend your sensibilities?
i don't really have an alternative to hand but there's probably loads. it's not particularly directed at you, it's directed at the way people write about sec and love on the internet in general. there's a weird evolutionary science perspective that loads of people come at it from and I don't like it. I think it's an American thing but I'm not sure
 

ghost

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i don't really have an alternative to hand but there's probably loads. it's not particularly directed at you, it's directed at the way people write about sec and love on the internet in general. there's a weird evolutionary science perspective that loads of people come at it from and I don't like it. I think it's an American thing but I'm not sure
mostly comes out of a harvard department that was funded mostly by Jeffrey Epstein. Sounds like a joke but isn't.
 

ghost

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you said it was created to respond, i just wanted to know if it was responding. How it was received. "Recieving" is a feminine virtue, you understand that one.
 

malelesbian

Femboyism IS feminism.
That twitter post has a truth I don't see much mentioned "I know that a lot of women pursue and prefer men who embody the truncated human expression of compliance with restrictive gender roles." - women are just as responsible for "patriarchy"/"toxic masculinity" by enforcing this through sexual selection - then again, if women are the people enforcing it, what does that mean?
We don't need to talk about sexual selection to make this point. Women do sometimes support the patriarchy, but they do this in many ways other than just their choices in partners, a point I've made repeatedly. What does it mean that they sometimes contribute to a system that hides and devales their own femininity? It just means that anyone can support the patriarchy regardless of identity.
 

malelesbian

Femboyism IS feminism.
you said it was created to respond, i just wanted to know if it was responding. How it was received. "Recieving" is a feminine virtue, you understand that one.
All the women I've talked to about it support it, agree with it and like it. But you were the one who thought popularity determines a theory's value because again you remain attached to capitalist notions of success totally unrelated to any sort of intellectual achievement.
 

malelesbian

Femboyism IS feminism.
And fashion is superficial. You are supposed to 'judge' someones fashion choices as far as innocuous judging falls under general communication. Clearly the guy described in the post wants to communicate something about his sensitivities with his fashion choices.
Go tell it to the other Mean Girls, Reg.
 

malelesbian

Femboyism IS feminism.
The talk of balance doesn't ring true to me as these discussions often seem to go one way: men "getting in touch with their feminine side." That isn't balance. That's pulling everything in one direction. Are women who get into combat sports and other traditionally masculine activities somehow reduced by it?

The point is actually that the dominant masculine culture pushes everything to one side. It tells men to eliminate their femininity entirely. So men need to reengage with their femininity since they are already masculine. We need to regain touch with feminine qualities the patriarchy tells us to destroy before we can achieve balance. It's like in Hegel, we need to understand the negation before we can combine both the reality and its negation (in this case masculinity and femininity)
 

Mr. Tea

Let's Talk About Ceps
The point is actually that the dominant masculine culture pushes everything to one side. It tells men to eliminate their femininity entirely. So men need to reengage with their femininity since they are already masculine. We need to regain touch with feminine qualities the patriarchy tells us to destroy before we can achieve balance. It's like in Hegel, we need to understand the negation before we can combine both the reality and its negation (in this case masculinity and femininity)
It doesn't sound like you want to "combine" masculinity and femininity, though. It just sounds like you want to eliminate masculinity (because it is bad) and promote femininity (because it is good).
 

malelesbian

Femboyism IS feminism.
It doesn't sound like you want to "combine" masculinity and femininity, though. It just sounds like you want to eliminate masculinity (because it is bad) and promote femininity (because it is good).
It doesn't matter how it sounds. I know what I said. I argued that I wanted to combine masculinity and femininity in a balanced man. I never said I wanted to eliminate ANYTHING. And I repeatedly said that both masculinity and femininity involved both good and bad qualities.
 
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