Plus feminists face massive widespread backlash to this day,
Okay, then give your own definition of masculinity.Selfishness and masculinity are two different things. You're just jumbling stuff together into a useless binary where everything's aligned with either the masculine or the feminine. I'm surprised you haven't invoked "The Divine Feminine" yet.
I wonder why then, you've spent more time criticizing feminism than you have the manosphere?That's because some of their ideas have been successfully integrated into mainstream society. This recent "manosphere" phenomenon is a bunch of men flailing around in response to feminism's successes.
Okay, then give your own definition of masculinity.
I wonder why then, you've spent more time criticizing feminism than you have the manosphere?
I don't have a particular definition of it. I just think picking a load of things you don't like about western society and arbitrarily designating them 'masculine' is ridiculous.
Right, but I don't see why you don't criticize the manosphere instead WHEN THAT'S THE WHOLE PURPOSE OF THIS TOPIC.I haven't been criticising feminism, I've been criticising your version of it.
I already pointed out that it isn't, sorry.femininity is wearing a crop top
It's far from arbitrary. My definition has a long history in feminist literature which you know nothing about. Indeed, since you have no alternative, it's not clear to me that there's any other available definition for femininity. So you have no argument. You can't deny that femininity exists, but you literally don't understand what it is and I do. Thus what can you possibly say about femininity?
Right, but I don't see why you don't criticize the manosphere instead WHEN THAT'S THE WHOLE PURPOSE OF THIS TOPIC.
I'm not denying femininity exists, I'm disputing your refracting of everything through the lens of gender.
Also, given you've claimed women aren't a monolith and you've read such a wealth of feminist literature, you should be aware of other available definitions of femininity from within feminism itself.
I did, I said it's a bunch of men flailing around in response to feminism's successes. Is there that much more to say about it? They're unable, or unwilling, to adapt to the new environment which doesn't value masculinity above all and are instead opting to lash out at women on the way down.
But again, I've repeatedly admitted that non-gendered or gender-neutral behavior exists. It's just not relevant to my discussion. I never said you denied femininity exists. I said you don't understand the meaning of gender.
That's the thing. There aren't any other definitions that you or I know about. You can't just assume that alternatives exist when you don't know about them. You read the literature and see if you can find an alternative, then we'll discuss it. Until then, you've no argument.
And yes feminine people aren't a monolith. That's why most feminists agree that there are many different ways to act feminine. But that doesn't change the fact that to act feminine is to help others. It just means there a variety of ways to help others.
Also if our society really doesn't devalue femininity, then why do you claim there are so many penalties for men acting feminin? If our culture really doesn't consider masculinity as better than femininity, shouldn't feminine men be widely rewarded by women for acting feminine? And why do women still sacrifice their feminine desires to satisfy a man?
The problem is you take non-gendered behaviour and try to claim it's gendered, e.g. selfishness. Someone acting selfishly is not necessarily acting masculine. A trans man is not transitioning into a person more strongly defined by selfishness.
Yes, you can assume there are alternatives.
You really expect people to believe you've never come across a definition of femininity other than your own?
I never said that. I clearly said that I don't become more masculine when I act less feminine and vice versa. Masculine and feminine qualities vary by degrees independently of each other.A man isn't less masculine if he chooses to help someone
and a selfish woman isn't any less of a woman.
That's a bizarrely reductive view of people.
What then does society value over masculinity? Besides it doesn't matter. When I said "society values masculinity over everything else" that was just hyperbole. I meant that society values masculinity over femininity. My point was just that traditional society considers masculinity as superior to femininity. And you have no response to that point.I didn't say society didn't devalue femininity, I said it didn't value masculinity above all. Those are two different arguments.
Yeah, you can imagine How to get chicks by acting like a homo being the next iteration in the PUA self-help book series, can't you.This sounds as sinister as the 'Red Pill' stuff. Very cynical.
Except for the fact that I've repeatedly criticized the instrumentalism exemplified by PUAs. Remember when I talked about non-instrumental love and you criticized me for it? My endorsement of unconditional love was meant as an alternative to PUAs who treat everything as a means to the end of getting laid or satisfying their masculine desires. It just goes to show you lack a coherent criticism of me.Yeah, you can imagine How to get chicks by acting like a homobeing the next iteration in the PUA self-help book series, can't you.
You're confused. I've already distinguished between gendered behaviors and masculine and feminine behaviors. Gendered behaviors define a person as a member of a gender. For example, manly behavior defines a person as a man. Womanly acts =/= feminine acts. Feminine acts contribute to feminine culture.
When I talk about masculinity and femininity, I'm talking about cultures, systems of representations, the masculine imaginary and the feminine imaginary. And I doubt you'll find anyone who denies that the masculine imaginary is self-oriented and the feminine imaginary focused on other people. But you can try!
Stop making assumptions without evidence. Remember when you said that there are books that discuss Butler clearly despite the fact that you didn't know what these books even were or even that they existed at all? Get serious.
Yes, because that's the truth. My definition is the only anti-essentialist one. I've asked repeatedly for an alternative anti-essentialist definition of femininity and no one could give one. You certainly can't.
What then does society value over masculinity? Besides it doesn't matter. When I said "society values masculinity over everything else" that was just hyperbole. I meant that society values masculinity over femininity. My point was just that society considers masculinity as superior to femininity. And you have no response to that point.
My not being able to provide a competing definition doesn't mean one doesn't exist, also Padraig pulled you up for essentialism on page one of this very thread.
You don't have a point. You just make stuff up on the fly as seen here. You asked me a question then backtracked and said it didn't matter then dismissed your previous comment I was initially responding to as hyperbole then tried to put forward a different point which was closer to the one I'd been making in response to your previous then claimed I have no response to it before I've even responded.
I do claim capitalist culture is masculine culture, yes. Capitalist culture is driven by self-interest.Capital's valued by society over masculinity. The gender of a CEO doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. Whether they can keep the money rolling in is far more important. Although you'll probably claim that's all masculine too...
But you didn't make any response, not even in this post...?
Ok. Should I care?Yes, I did. You responded to it in your following line. I said capital's valued over masculinity and you claimed capital is masculine.
You can't even keep track of what you've said within the span of minutes.