A couple of the elements:
- Fantasy projection onto the other
- A constant reading of the environment for signs
- A deep need to resolve the ambiguous/indeterminate
- The way this need can lead to self-sabotaging (b/c at least then the matter's certain)
- The importance of the crush's opinion of you/reciprocation to your own self-valuation
- A belief in winning the crush as end-all, be-all, ticket to happiness
- Fantasy projection onto the other
while reading hotel concierge i noticed a strong dose of censure in his thinking. like if you nerds could stop projecting fantasies it'd be good all round. thing is you do this involuntarily. like it or not. it always happens, even if you know at the time that that's what you're doing you still get the "effects"
- The way this need can lead to self-sabotaging (b/c at least then the matter's certain)
not sure if i've ever deliberately messed things up with my favourite indie pop singer, by stupidity many times but not deliberately
- The importance of the crush's opinion of you/reciprocation to your own self-valuation
a beautiful thing
- A belief in winning the crush as end-all, be-all, ticket to happiness
works