its only an observation, take it or dismiss it, it doesn't matter to me. you seem to get all hot under the collar when we dicuss this. i don't think its a big deal at all, whatever people want to do.
The problem comes when people say things like "everyone lies somewhere on this line...", or whatever, because "everyone" includes
me and I'd rather people who've never met me didn't take it upon themselves to make pronouncements about me. Surely that's not such a controversial idea? Surely a gay man wouldn't like it if you went up to him and said "Oh come on, you're not
really gay, are you?"
and this thing about fancying ugly people being superficial seems like another knee jerk reaction from you. i wasn't saying that people go for ugly people deliberately. but that theres more to attraction than the phsyical. i thought it was a pretty simple concept which was pretty much universally understood.
Well DUH, I'm not saying we should all just go into the nearest singles bar, pull the most attractive person we can see there and decide to spend the rest of our life with her/him - of course there's much more to it than the physical, but all the same, it's
a good place to start. I mean, seriously, all other things being equal (so dropping for a moment the tired cliche about all unattractive people having loads of 'personality' or all attractive people being 'shallow'*), you'd rather have a partner whom you consider good-looking than one you don't, wouldn't you?
*alright, alright, no-one's actually said that, but we were getting close...